Shy is good

Many shy people would love to be that extrovert who can walk into a crowded

room and say ‘Hello’ to everyone in that positive, confident way. The shy person

hopes that the strangers at the party do not talk to them as they may clam up and

not know what to say to them. They often blush and feel silly.

The shy person will avoid situations in which they are the main focus. Their

friends will be few but close ones.

The opposite to a shy person is the outgoing, gregarious, extravert and seemingly

very confident individual. In the extreme form it can manifest an arrogant and

boastful persona. But we are all different and there is no right or wrong

personality type.

Read my book, “career Coaching” (also called, “Your Lowe Profile”) by John Lowe

on Amazon and you will discover how different personalities behave and interact

with others.

I have found from my coaching experience that shyness is a positive trait. It is

often the trait of a thoughtful, deep-thinking personality which fits the Analyst

type. Analysts react from a rational perspective and spontaneous small-talk is

not their forte or focus. This explains why small-talk is not within their thinking

construct. They need a base from which to develop an interactive conversation.

PhD students will talk very animatedly about their dissertation. The topic is the

subject, the conversational anchor and their research is the material for dialogue.

My heading “Shy is good” endeavours to allay the misconception that shyness is a

negative trait. The intelligent truth is that it is the manifestation of a particular

personality type. So no longer envy that brash, outgoing party type. Be your shy,

thoughtful self.