Many shy people would love to be that extrovert who can walk into a crowded
room and say ‘Hello’ to everyone in that positive, confident way. The shy person
hopes that the strangers at the party do not talk to them as they may clam up and
not know what to say to them. They often blush and feel silly.
The shy person will avoid situations in which they are the main focus. Their
friends will be few but close ones.
The opposite to a shy person is the outgoing, gregarious, extravert and seemingly
very confident individual. In the extreme form it can manifest an arrogant and
boastful persona. But we are all different and there is no right or wrong
Read my book, “career Coaching” (also called, “Your Lowe Profile”) by John Lowe
on Amazon and you will discover how different personalities behave and interact
I have found from my coaching experience that shyness is a positive trait. It is
often the trait of a thoughtful, deep-thinking personality which fits the Analyst
type. Analysts react from a rational perspective and spontaneous small-talk is
not their forte or focus. This explains why small-talk is not within their thinking
construct. They need a base from which to develop an interactive conversation.
PhD students will talk very animatedly about their dissertation. The topic is the
subject, the conversational anchor and their research is the material for dialogue.
My heading “Shy is good” endeavours to allay the misconception that shyness is a
negative trait. The intelligent truth is that it is the manifestation of a particular
personality type. So no longer envy that brash, outgoing party type. Be your shy,